...because straight and gay people alike are prejudiced against you.

Apparently, it's against human nature or something to be capable of being attracted to both and/or either gender. Straight people (well, the asshole-y ones) hate you because they see you as a lesbian--which, you know, is fine, because whatever, I expected that when I started coming out. What I really didn't see coming at all until after it started happening was that a lot of gay people don't like you either. Apparently, a lot of them don't believe that bisexuals really exist. The reaction I've gotten a lot of (aside from the straight-person-perspective of me being a dirty, greedy deviant who simply can't make her mind, which is a horrible, filthy LIE with no truth in it at all) is the stereotype that:

1) bisexual men are really just guys who can't come to terms with the fact that they're gay.
Now, not being a bisexual man, I can't really give you an opinion or personal experience with this one. I will say that, yes, I have met several people, men and women, who came out as bisexual and then, some time later, said that they actually figured out that they were "all-the-way gay" but were too scared or whatever of deviating too far from the straight lifestyle that they had all been raised to believe they should grow up and create for themselves, so, whether they realized they were doing it or not, they were trying to leave the "straight option" open for themselves. However, I have also had the pleasure of meeting several people (like myself) who identify themselves as bisexual and who were, and continue to be, comfortable being attracted to and involved with people of both sexes. True, I've met fewer bi males than females, but then I also associate with more females on a regular basis just because of my social circles (my job, my univeristy and it's 5:1 female:male ratio, etc).

2) bisexual women are really just straight girls playing around until they find some man to commit to
Again, I can't speak for every girl out there who says that she's bi, and I will admit that I can think of at least one person in my experience who has fallen into this very irritating stereotype. And I really, really do hate this one. I am a bisexual female, but I don't play around and I am certainly not waiting for Prince Charming to come sweep me off me feet so that I can cease to entertain myself with all this homosexual preoccupation that I kept myself entertained with while waiting for him. UGH, no. I mean, yes, I might decide I want to spend my life with a man. But there is just as good a chance (maybe even a very slightly better chance, according to my Kinsey scale score) that I might end up with another woman. Either one is fine with me. I could be equally content with either. And, thank God for being Canadian, I would be just as capable of marrying either. I, and most bisexuals I know, care primarily about that person that I am attracted to, not their gender.

When someone tells me that I'm not really a bisexual because bisexuals don't really exist, it fucking pisses me off. I know nothing I say is going to change their mind, which pisses me off more, but it generally doesn't stop me from ranting about it anyway.

So, yeah. Apologies to anyone reading this who feels like I offended them. It was not my intention. I know that a delightfully large number of people--gay, straight, bi or what-have-you--do believe that bisexuals are out there and this rant wasn't directed at you guys. It was directed at the ignorant. Promise. Ta ta!